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How to get past INTENSE RESISTANCE

In the past week I’ve received several e-mails from people who are highly resistant to allowing most energy techniques, including ZPoint, to work. Rather than respond individually I thought it might be a good idea to send my reply to everyone. I’m sure there are many more people that fall under the category of “highly resistant individuals”.

First, I’m posting the most recent e-mail I received concerning this issue. After you read that you can read my response. If you fall into this category I’m sure you can benefit from what I am about to say.

Now, read what this person has to say…

Dear Grant:

I am someone who seems to have some very serious and stuck issues when it comes to having these techniques, including ZPoint, to work for me, and I am really feeling like I’m at the end of my rope. I am just reaching out to ask you if you might happen to know what on Earth could possibly be ‘wrong’ with me – you know, whatever core issue(s), polarity reversal or disorganization, that I have that I can not get these energy modalities to actually work effectively for me so that I can transform my life and perhaps contribute to Life in some way instead of just taking up space here.

You mentioned that the mirror MP3s had something in them to help with removing resistance to ZPoint working for us. I, for the life of me, could not at all find and hear that in the recordings. Am i that unconscious, I wonder? I didn’t think that i was, but perhaps i am.


I was wondering what do I need to do, other than constantly repeat these recordings until I pass out (as Robert Smith of FasterEFT would say about doing his technique) to see some real change in me and my life? Is there some simple thing that I am missing maybe??

(Name witheld)

Dear (Name witheld),

First of all, there is nothing “wrong” with you. For whatever reason you belong to that 5% of the population that is highly resistant to allowing energy techniques to work for you. This does not mean you are broken in any way, it just means that before you can begin to benefit from these techniques, you must first focus your attention on releasing that intense resistance.

For most people doing as Robert Smith of FasterEFT fame suggests would work. The act of listening to the clearing recordings over and over again would serve to “wear down” that resistance of that spoke of earlier. However, for people in that 5% who are strongly resistant this seems to have little benefit. In fact, you could probably listen 1000 times and make little headway.

A different approach is required.

It’s like there is a part of you or an aspect of you that simply refuses to “give up” what you seek to release. It’s like you have this little “Hoarder” inside you that is terrified of letting go of the things it has acquired over the years. Most of us are aware of people like this who have houses full of things they have purchased over the years and try as they might they just can’t seem to let those things go.

So here’s what I’m suggesting you do. First, recognize that aspect of “The Hoarder” within you. What were going to do is do some surrogate ZPoint on that aspect in much the same way that you would do ZPoint with someone who is having a relationship issue.

Step one – use your imagination and just imagine for a moment that this “Hoarder” has a face and a personality and that it is in pain. It is afraid of letting go of these feelings. So we are going to help it do so by intending that face and those feelings of fear it has into our releasing circle.

Step two – imagining that those feelings of fear are yours, take those feelings through the ZPoint process again and again until that little “Hoarder” aspect within you has a smile on its face. This might mean you would take it through five or six rounds of ZPoint.

Step three – test to see if you can clear a regular issue that failed to respond to ZPoint or some other technique prior to doing this exercise. If it doesn’t clear completely, go back to step one and put that little “Hoarder” back into your releasing circle and go through steps two and three again.

If you wish and there is enough interest I can set up a series of two or three ZPoint classes to take you through the process I’ve mentioned above. There would be a cost to this so it might be a good idea if you try this first on your own.

Please, let me know how you make out.

Grant Connolly

www.acceptingself.com

Peace Begins with Me

I am re-posting an article I wrote a few years ago. It seems appropriate for these times…

You may have noticed the tag line I sometimes put at the end of my correspondence. It reads “Peace always begins with me!”.

These are not just words, they are a statement of fact. No matter what situation I find myself in, peace always begins with me. When I walk into a room, no matter what’s going on, I am peaceful and that peace extends like a bubble around me. When I speak to people or even just sit near them, they become more peaceful too. Often remarkably so.

I am not the only person who has this effect on people. There are many long time ZPoint users who have noticed this phenomenon as well. It is important to understand that we are not affecting people in this way, it is the peace we carry inside us that does the job.

When you are peaceful inside, that peace can be felt by everyone you come into contact with just as the opposite is true. It is a palpable presence that you carry within you and that presence reaches out to others and affects them as well.

It has long been known and accepted that “as it is within you, so shall it be outside of you” If you are filled with upset and anger or resentment, you will attract those situations, circumstances and relationships that mirror that upset. Your life on the outside will be filled with a turmoil that merely reflects the turmoil already present within you. If you feel abused, you will notice only those experiencing similar abuse. If you are angry, you will constantly meet that anger in relationships or the circumstances and situations that trigger it. As it is within you, so shall it be outside of you.

The purpose of this healing method is to help you stop the madness, the drama and the upset. It’s purpose is to give you a simple way to let all of that go and find inner peace.

Many people today are concerned with World Peace or Outer Peace. They look at the world and see only the violence, the mistrust, the anger and the resentment. They feel powerless to do anything about the current situation and in their powerlessness feel isolated and alone. To feel better about themselves, they join organizations believing that in working with others, that in promoting the idea of Peace, this will cause others to change. Those people will become more peaceful and the world will become more peaceful as a result.

I am here to tell you that this approach will NOT work. We cannot change the world by trying to change others. We can ONLY CHANGE OURSELVES. If this approach did work, we would be experiencing a far more peaceful world right now. As Dr. Phil would say “How’s that workin’ for you?”

Mahatma Gandhi said it best, “Be the change you want to see in the world”. This means that if you want a peaceful world, you must first become peaceful within yourself.

Peace always begins with you and spreads outward. To say to another, “lay down your arms and find peace” without first feeling that peace within yourself is the greatest of all hypocrisies. You are saying “Do as I say, not as I do”. They are merely empty words or actions. There is no power of truth behind them.

When you speak words of Peace and inside secretly think thoughts of anger or resentment, you perpetrate the very conditions you seek to change. First you MUST become peaceful within yourself and then your words and your very presence will have the power to change lives. Peace always, always begins with you.

If you are truly committed to World Peace, find that Peace within yourself first. My personal belief is that The ZPoint Process was specifically created to help you do this easily and with very little effort on your part. Over a very short period of time you’ll notice yourself becoming much more peaceful and relaxed about life, and this is a gift beyond measure.

All parts of your life will change for the better. You will be happier and you will see that happiness reflected in the faces around you. Remember, as within, so without. And the greatest part is, you don’t need to say a word. You become that Peace personified.

Peace always begins with you.

Practice your ZPoint everyday and become more and more peaceful within yourself. You will very quickly see the results of the Peace you carry as it powerfully affects your relationships and everything you touch. Be the change you want to see in the world.

Be at peace with the world and the world will smile and make a place for you at the table.

#1 Reason People are Unhappy

Of course we all know why many people are unhappy. They don’t have enough money to do the things in life they want to do.

Being rich doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be happy. However, having the money to do the things you want to do when you want to do them, goes a long way to helping you find the happiness you deserve.

For example, the number one reason why marriages fail is because of lack of money. Lack of money affects every part of life. When you don’t have the money for basic necessities you could actually starve to death. Lack of money certainly affects your health and your access to healthcare. Lack of money determines the kind of clothes you wear, the kind of car you drive, the kind of home you live in, the kind of school you go to or don’t go to. Lack of money affects your social standing, your credit scores, the kind of work you do.

Lack of money affects your whole life.

So, the question is why do you lack money? We all know stories of people who through persistence and hard work attained the financial resources needed to live a better life. We hear the stories but can we apply the lessons those people offer to do the same thing ourselves?

Overcoming financial lack is first of all an inside job. Overcoming financial lack requires that you change first on the inside and then translate that inner change to the outside world. Overcoming financial lack requires that you change the way you think about your life.

One of my primary reasons why people don’t change is simply because they resist changing. They have this inner program that says “things are just fine the way they are and I’m going to stay exactly the way I am right now for the rest of my life”.

You are the way you are because that 95% of you that exists in your subconscious mind says “things are just fine the way they are”. But, if you look at your “outside life” you see you have a real lack of money and because of that lack your life sucks!

So, your REAL TASK is not to immediately start looking for ways to earn more money, it’s to start looking for ways to change the way “you think about and look at money on the inside”.

 

The OLD Ways and The OLD Energy

OLD energy can be called anything that lowers your vibration such as Anger, Resentment, Fear, Doubt, Jealousy or Rage. When feeling this ‘OLD Energy’ you are not conscious of who you really are and become someone else. You become Anger, you become Fear, you become Doubt or Jealousy personified.

I can recall earlier times in my life when I would become angry and literally disappear within my own angry world for days. My thoughts would be colored with anger, my words angry and even how I’d look out through my eyes would show anger. I was Anger personified and it could last for days. It wasn’t a good idea to upset me during one of those times. 🙂

If you saw me walking down the street, you best move aside because chances are I wouldn’t see you. I could be like that for days before I’d wake up and realize what I was doing. It was like my head coming above water and suddenly being able to see from a very different perspective.

That is OLD Energy!

Anger such as mine and the patterns of behavior that accompany it are like unwelcome gifts from previous generations. My Anger was passed to me from my father and my fathers anger passed to him from his father and so on and so on. An endless chain of damaged lives stretching to the horizon.

However,that line will end with me. It’s OLD Energy. If I don’t stop it, who will?

I’ve designed a 4 session program to help people release the OLD energy I speak about in 3 different areas of your life.

1. Releasing the OLD Energy in our relationships, such as anger, fear, resentment etc.

2. Releasing the OLD Energy as it has to do with Money and earning a living. Money is neither good or bad, it’s just money. We assign the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ names according to our experience with it. Perhaps it’s time to let all of that go and just allow money into our lives.

3. Releasing the OLD Energy as it has to do with our Physical Health. I can’t think of a time when feeling positive, hopeful, energetic or joyful contributed to someone becoming physically ill. No, it’s usually anger, resentment, fear etc that over time turns into physical illness. The OLD Energy.

Always sent with love,

Grant Connolly

Clearing the Gap

When you are struggling financially and dream about having the money to do the things you want, you are in the Gap. When you are in a job that you hate and dream about the perfect job for you, you are in the Gap. When you are in a relationship that does not please you and dream of being in the perfect relationship, you are in the Gap.

The Gap is that place between where you are right now and where you want to be.

 

A walk in the Park with ZPoint

People often ask me for easy ways to include ZPoint in their daily lives. What follows is an easy way to incorporate the emotional benefits of ZPoint into a simple exercise routine that almost anyone can do.

Here it is… Go for a walk and repeat your cue word EVERY time your right or left foot hits the ground. That’s it. Simple.

And as you do this, pay attention to everything you see, feel or hear. In other-words, as you repeat your cue word with every other step, come into the present moment and be VERY aware of your body, your feelings, your surroundings, the sounds you hear etc.

Be very aware of EVERYTHING and as you do this you will be repeating your cue word.

Another easy way to do this is to be focused on your breathing as you walk. Repeat your cue word with each breath in and each breath out. Continue being very aware of your body, your thoughts, your feelings and your surroundings. If your attention should slip, no worries, just bring it back to your breath and repeating your cue word.

Try this and see what happens. I’m telling you right now it’s absolutely MAGICAL. Write to me at grant@acceptingself.com and tell me what happens.

Grant

 

A Personal Journey

machupichuFor me, ZPoint has always been a very personal journey, not just a means of earning a living. It has been a journey to reveal who I really am to myself. That journey continues. At this moment I am in Lima Peru, preparing to leave for Cusco and up into the Mountains.

When I was 12 my father died leaving me his library of books. Among those were a number of books on ancient archaeological sites including those found here in Peru. Of particular interest to me, were the obvious parallels between the really ancient structures here and those found in Egypt such as the Pyramids at Giza and other even older sites.

I grew up devouring those books and dreaming of one day visiting Egypt and Peru. Well, I still haven’t visited Egypt, but here I am in Peru and I am about to visit some of those ancient sites hidden high in the mountains. I intend to keep you posted on my progress.

There is one more thing I’d like to speak with you about today. At the beginning of my letter I said that ZPoint has always been a very personal thing for me. Right from the beginning it has been my way of clearing away the personal hurts, traumas and dramas that made me unhappy.

And, over time as I released myself from those hurts, I shared what I learned with everyone I could. I remember reading somewhere that if you want something for yourself, first give whatever that is to someone else. And, in the giving, you receive whatever that is. I wanted peace of mind and enlightenment more than I wanted anything else.

Since coming to Peru, this feeling of deep peace within me has intensified. In a way, coming here has been like coming home and as a consequence, my creativity has soared. The work I’ve been doing lately with Allowing Money and the upcoming Classes on Allowing Love are examples of that.

In both examples, the idea is to clear away all the unconscious impediments that stop you from allowing more of both to come into your life. Testimonials from the Allowing Money Classes are starting to come in and I am not surprised to learn that it has affected participants in a very positive and life-changing way. That was my intention. I have set the same intention for the upcoming Allowing Love Classes.

Do you actually feel your feelings?

Many years ago when I sold real estate in the Toronto area, I sold a home that was located right beside a busy and very noisy Expressway. The young couple who owned the home had already purchased a new home in a small quiet community just north of the city.

A few months later I received a frantic telephone call from the same couple begging me to find them another home right beside the same Expressway they had just moved away from. I was dumbfounded and asked them why they would want to return to the noise and chaos of the city. I’ll never forget what they said.

It seems they were being literally driven crazy by the quiet of country living. They couldn’t stand it and relayed to me how they hadn’t had a decent nights sleep since they moved.

Amazing!

The point of the story is that we can become so accustomed to the background noise in our lives that only when it is absent that we actually notice it is there. It’s the same with emotions.

We can become so accustomed to “feeling bad”, that we are not consciously aware of how bad we really feel most of the time. And worse, we think that our normal state of “feeling bad” feels good to us. In other words we become so used to feeling bad that we don’t notice feeling bad anymore. Feeling bad actually feels good if you follow the strange logic of that.

So, what can you do about this?

First of all recognize that there may be a problem. You know you have a problem if you don’t perceive that you feel bad most of the time and yet your life isn’t the way you want it to be. When you face problems all the time, those problems are the echo returning from beliefs and attitudes that don’t align with what you really want. You have just trained yourself not to feel them.

Now, with ZPoint we don’t necessarily need to actually feel the feeling that we want to release. Because we are speaking directly to our subconscious mind we can intend that the feelings that don’t feel good that we would normally walk around with every day, go into our releasing circle and we can clear those.

Your intention statement could look something like this:

I intend that the feelings that I normally walk around with that don’t feel good, go into my Releasing Circle and I begin releasing those by counting down from 10…

Then you would take yourself through the rest of the process for at least four or five rounds, placing whatever comes up back into your releasing circle for each subsequent round. My experience shows that very quickly you will uncover that characteristic feeling representing the way you normally feel during the day and that you don’t necessarily notice.

Once you release that or have uncovered that feeling you can release it completely and start living a happier more fulfilled life. And you will notice that when you change how you characteristically feel during the day, your actual life experience will change to come more into alignment with that. Your life will get better and far more enjoyable.

If you have any questions on this please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me at grant@acceptingself.com. If you wish, we can set up private sessions and deal with this properly.

Kindest regards,

Grant Connolly
www.acceptingself.com